I was wondering who do you think is right?

Me and my friend made plans to hang out on Oct. 17 in September. We were going to go out with both my sisters both of which have babies one of my sisters is also married. Me myself work and go to school. My friend only has a part time job. Needless to say me and my sisters and my brother in law are very busy but we all decided to take time to hang out and go out that night together. I decide to find out everyone’s schedule for Oct. 17 three days before to find out if work schedules changed if babysitting plans changed so we could adjust ourselves accordingly. Everyone replied and told me what was going on but my friend so I thought oh well I will try again tomorrow. I tried again the next day as many times as I can (on every break at my job). One time I did call 3 times in a row because I only had a short amount of time to get things planned. I decided to wait before trying again so I tried again that night around 7:25 because I knew if he was at work the latest he would have gotten out at 7:00pm. The message I left goes as fallowed “Where have you been” I waited about an hour in a half for a reply and got none by now I was upset because this is two days without hearing if he is going to go or not or what’s what. So I left another message stating “You’re not being a good friend”. In about another hour I now realize that he doesn’t respect me so I sent him a message stating “You don’t respect me just forget about me I am done” (I was in a rush what I meant was I am done trying to contact him that night). The next day still no reply so I left one more message stating “If you keep ignoring me I am not sure I want to be your friend”. After I got off of work his grandmother asked me to drop off his hard drive I was barrowing when I got there he was just staring to drain the swamp cooler. He explained to me that I was being rude that I sound like a wife b#tching at him. I asked how and he referred to the you don’t respect me message. I wanted to tell him if your wife ever has to tell you, “You don’t respect me” that’s bad and same goes for friends respect is based off of respect. He then said he was too upset about the thing going on in his life (job, bad girlfriend, family) that he didn’t want to reply to me. (He is a 21 year old man I think he should man up I only hear of girls acting like that) Fact is the only reason why I was getting upset about him not replying is because I am scheduling 4 people not including myself. Well he made dinner plans before we talked that day (so he had no intention to going or telling me he wasn’t going) and I whent without him.